Woman marrying to a different politically oriented house

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Woman marrying to a different politically oriented house

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barackosama
Member

Just wondering if a woman has a certain mindset and strong political orientation to a certain party, how should this woman behave when she marries into a house that happens to be on different political party's trough.

In other words, does political orientation of the would-be partner play a role in marriage decision?

For sure there will be clash of ideas.

How should the marriage be made a success while keeping own political values alive, especially for a woman who typically subdues her all sort of appetites after marriage.

Similar deal when a woman with strong views marries into a different religious sect, how about it?

Posted 11 months ago on 18 Jun 2011 1:54 #
telengr
Member

Normally women are not that fanatic about policitcs. But if there is such a woman, and belongs to opposite group...a man marrying her would have a whole life to remind him, he made a wrong decision.

Posted 11 months ago on 18 Jun 2011 6:08 #
semirza
Moderator

Yes, and the ultimate happens. She pays with her life. Same as when a male is married off six years his sernior and he finds 'ultimate nirwana' in a belly dancer and now we Pakistanis are dancing to the tunes since a feudal was mistaken as a democrate and elected into Pakistani politics to rule us according to his whims, as an elected political front face as well as a civilian marshal law administrator. What a term to be invented!

Posted 11 months ago on 18 Jun 2011 10:38 #
Anwer Kamal
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Political woman
An example
http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ViewsToNews/~3/YKM-NvKMPF4/pakistan?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email

Posted 11 months ago on 18 Jun 2011 21:53 #
rhyme
Members

@Anwer Kamal

Irrespective of which part Kashmala Tariq Belongs to,how is it important for anyone to know if shes wearing Jeans and T shirt or Shalwar kamiz anywhere?... kindly stop poking ur nose in someone's personal and private life with which you seem so much obsessed it looks!...how typical!

Posted 11 months ago on 19 Jun 2011 9:52 #
rhyme
Members

@the topic ..Woman marrying to a different politically oriented house...

There will be a cat dog fight all the time in the house leaving no single hair on both the heads turning them eventually into "a baldy man" and "a baldy woman" :D

Posted 11 months ago on 19 Jun 2011 9:56 #
barackosama
Member

Cat and dog fight only for those who are insecure about their personal priorities and value the trashy politics to levels to have it ruin their own lives.

The point was how to strike a diplomatic balance in which there is mutual respect for each other and enuf keep-out personal buffer.

Posted 11 months ago on 19 Jun 2011 12:26 #
Bullay Shah
Member

Sukina (daughter of Imam Hussain) married to a man who was from different political approach. But she made it very clear to him before marraige that she will be firm on her political ideas.
If a man does not or cannot like/respect his wife because of her different political ideas, he is politically immature and personally sad.

Posted 11 months ago on 20 Jun 2011 1:24 #
Beenai
Moderator

women definitely have more patience and capability to adjust in different circumstances than men for sure.
that's why every religion and society has a concept of woman going to the man's house and family after marriage,not man going to join and have to adjust in woman's family.

i have seen women marrying to different religion or sect or cast and getting adjusted well .
so political difference is a lesser difference than these ones.

one of my sunni friend has married to a shia guy and she fought her parents to get married with him .
after getting married ,she tried to adjust in the shia family and given a tough time by her shia in laws, who were not ready to accept her as a sunni daughter in law.
after sometime, somehow she did manage to calm them too but unfortunately ,her hubby died in the Air Blue Plane crash ,while he was traveling for his office meeting.
now this sunni girl is left all alone with a 6 month kid.
whose father was a shia and mom is a sunni .

Posted 11 months ago on 20 Jun 2011 9:50 #
barackosama
Member

So now does she have support of the parents or asked to deal with the consequences of her decision?

Posted 11 months ago on 20 Jun 2011 11:47 #
Beenai
Moderator

@barakobama,
yes,for sure she has the support of her parents now.
parents are parents ,they wont leave their child alone.
no matter how angry they maybe with their child.

she is with her parents but now complications has arises as her shia in laws are demanding their Pota (grand son )back, they wanna him to be grown and brought up as a shia muslim.
she is fighting her case in court.
her parents are still angry with her but supporting her in the legal war financially as well as morally.

Posted 11 months ago on 20 Jun 2011 12:42 #
barackosama
Member

Ye issue (baita shia ya sunni) tu tab bhi ana tha agar baap zinda hota.

Posted 11 months ago on 20 Jun 2011 12:47 #
Beenai
Moderator

couple has decided before baby's birth that the kid will be brought up as a neutral Muslim.
and after he will gets mature enough ,will be given choice to adapt any sect he wants to go with.

obviously as kids spends most of the time with their mothers specially when mom is a housewife then definitely ,they becomes closer to mom and mom's religious views.

but now things have changed completely for her.
her in laws are quite influential with contacts with Zardari and co.
and they wanna their grandson back.
to raise him as a Shia Muslim.
as they had only son who had died and only grand son which has a Sunni mother.

Posted 11 months ago on 20 Jun 2011 12:58 #
barackosama
Member

You made a great point that political differences are less significant than faith ones, so probably reconcilable. But how about strong political views but under same faith especially at certain age when both sides are highly opinionated. I think in long term this is rather unlikely situation because a woman probably would not carry her strong stance with earlier fervor after load of marriage. Similarly, with new responsibilities the man would probably also cool off unless he keeps an active political circle of friends.

Posted 11 months ago on 20 Jun 2011 13:45 #
Beenai
Moderator

well,depends, who holds the stronger position?
if a ABC political party voter marries to a XYZ political party voter.
if the social,political ,moral and ethical position of ABC party voter is strong. he/she will dominate the other partner.

Posted 11 months ago on 20 Jun 2011 14:05 #
barackosama
Member

It is difficult to judge who is the stronger party on the merits you listed.

If one of the parties is JI then of course everything would be more black and white, or PTI in which members tend to consider themselves on higher moral ground than the rest of the bunch.

So I think the only valid cases are PTI vs. party X or JI vs. party X. In all other cases any partner could be a lota after marriage.

Posted 11 months ago on 20 Jun 2011 14:12 #
choosy
Member

he he he
mein tou aik aisi larki se shadi karon ga(bara ho kay):):):)jo meri kisi mukhalif party ki voter ho.
aur phor ussko kahon ga kay wohh PTI ko vote daye.

iss tarha mein PPP yah MQM yah ANP ka aik vote kat kay apni party mein dalon ga.
he he he
he he he

magar agar wohh mujh se zadia hoshiyar nikli tou wohh mujh se vote na dalwa lay kahein kisi fazool se party ko.
phir kiya hoga?

Posted 11 months ago on 23 Jun 2011 8:58 #
Hussain Farooqui
Member

There is an old saying in Urdu which means kings fight with each others but don't mind exchanging brides and bridegrooms in the their families .

Posted 11 months ago on 23 Jun 2011 11:03 #
choosy
Member

yani kay?

Posted 11 months ago on 23 Jun 2011 11:20 #
Hussain Farooqui
Member

Marriages among the political families are irrelevant to their political differences. There have been marriages between the families of Pagaro and Gilani despite their political differences.

Posted 11 months ago on 23 Jun 2011 13:31 #
choosy
Member

acha aab samjh gaya.
yah tou sahi kaha aap ne bilkul.

magar yeh tou baray political gharano ki baat hay.
jinki tarbiat hi 2 amalii (double standard)kay asolon pe hoti hay.

hum tou aam logon ki baat bhi kar rahay yahan.
aik aam larki jo PPP ki hay wohh agar kisi MQM waly se shadi kar lay tou kiya hoga>?

woh PPP ko hi vote deti rahay gi yah MQM ko daye gi?

meray dost ne ki shadi hay.
uss becharay ko jo biwi mili wohh ussko jahan kehti hay wohh vote daal aata hay.
he he he

Posted 11 months ago on 23 Jun 2011 13:43 #
barackosama
Member

@Hussain Farooqui

There is obvious bandar-bant at levels of Pagaro/Gilani. The issue is however with partisan marriage partners who take things way too seriously, like some Jamati die-hard type folks.

Posted 11 months ago on 24 Jun 2011 14:56 #
semirza
Moderator

I do agree with barackosama. There is an obvious bandar bant and the two bandars are Pagaro and Gilani....family business same as Zardari married into Bhuttos and now Pakistan is sold..because of Zardari and not Bhuttos.

Posted 11 months ago on 24 Jun 2011 15:05 #